SEX & INTIMACY COACH

Coach / Aaron Frazin

Aaron Frazin

I’m a leading sex and relationship coach who’s helped hundreds of individuals and couples get unstuck - from those trapped in their heads, to partners who haven’t had sex in months, to folks quietly wondering if they’re “too broken” to enjoy it at all.

My style is direct, warm, and evidence-based. I’m trained as a sex therapist (with a Master’s in Counseling from Bradley University), certified in sex coaching through the 3-year Sex and Relationship Embodiment program, and trained in couples therapy (EFT). I also hold advanced training in body-based approaches like Hakomi Mindfulness Therapy and Gestalt Therapy.

Sexual challenges aren’t random. They’re messages from a part of you demanding to be heard. Ignore them, and they only gets louder. But when you finally slow down and listen - you’ll know what needs to change for your body to reclaim its full erotic expression.

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Who I work with

I specialize in working with individuals and couples, monogamous and non-monogamous, who are motivated to make a change in their erotic lives. I enjoy working with all genders and sexualities.

Clients have come to me to work on many of life’s challenges, including: confidence and self esteem, anxiety, dating, creating fulfilling relationships, conflict and communication, intimacy, rekindling desire, couples, mismatched libido, boundaries, kink, BDSM, orgasm challenges, premature ejactulation, erectile dysfunction, delayed ejaculation, sexual trauma, body-image, feeling sexy, polyamory, ADHD and neurodiversity, people pleasing, grief, creativity, masculinity, burnout, building a business, managing a team, navigating major life changes, divorce and breakups, sexuality, finding a romantic partner, career changes, and developing unique authenticity.

It is important to select a sex practitioner who’s approach aligns with you. I’d love to learn more about you to determine if my approach is a good fit.

Professional Training

I am trained in multiple different approaches to assisting transformation.

Therapy Training

Masters in Clinical Mental Health Counseling from Bradley University in Illinois (2018-2021). Grounding my work in a 3 year formal therapy masters degree training was important to me - I wanted the depth and clinical rigor to support people fully.
Emotion-Focused Couples Therapy (EFT): Evidence-based couples therapy modality for when couples find themselves stuck in the same pattern, repairing from affairs, and persistent problems. Completed Level 1 in 2025, Level 2 will be completed in December, 2025.
Hakomi Mindfulness Therapy: A Buddhist-informed body-centered psychotherapy method focused on witnessing, accepting, and body-awareness as keys to living a fulfilled life, instead of running from the body with thinking or doing. From 2020 to 2021 I completed a year long professional training in Hakomi.
Gestalt Therapy: I hold an advanced certificate in Gestalt Therapy, graduating in 2020 from the Gestalt Institute of San Francisco after over a year in advanced training and supervision. Gestalt therapy is a somatic psychology that helps people live more authentically and unsubscribe from societal norms that don’t fit them.

Sex Coaching, Pleasure, Kink, and Polyamory:

Sex and Relationship Embodiment Certification: 2025. 3 years of specialized clinical sex and relationship coaching training under Keeley Rankin, Completing 2,400 supervised clinical hours and 3 years of weekly supervision alongside Aimee Evnin.
Somatic Sex Education (In Progress): Currently completing advanced somatic sex educator training, incorporating body-based tools for sexual healing and pleasure expansion
Healthy Non-Monogamous Relationships (Libby Sinback): I initially took this 16 week training for myself, and later was selected to return as a course instructor and mentor for 3 cohorts. I helped teach Libby Sinback’s program - teaching the sex and pleasure modules as well as running group processing breakouts - bringing in somatic tools and sex education to help participants build deeper, more authentic connections, learn how to open their relationships, and explore non-traditional relationships.
Unfurling into Pleasure: Completed a 16-week somatic and pleasure-based course with best-selling author and sex educator Euphemia Russell, author of Slow Pleasure: Explore Your Pleasure Spectrum.
Intentional Eating and Body-Image Training: Completed a 6-month course with Emily Van Eck, MS, RDN, focused on building a nourishing, non-diet relationship with food and body. This work helped me reframe body image and connect with self-love and sensuality in the present - not as a future ideal - so I can better support both myself and my clients.

Additional Training

Certified in “Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents”: A 3 month certificate by New York Times Best Selling Author and Psychologist, Dr. Lindsay Gibson. This certification deepened my ability to support clients dealing with the lasting impact of emotionally immature caregivers - such as boundary struggles, shame, and emotional neglect. I use this framework to help clients build more secure relationships and a grounded sense of self.
Financial Literacy & Values-Based Business: Completed an 8-week course with Hadassah Damien - a queer punk artist turned economics researcher and activist - on sustainable, equity-focused financial practices for small businesses. This training deepened my understanding of how money shapes mental health, relationships, and values-driven living.
Opening the Heart of Forgiveness (7 weeks): Completed Jack Kornfield’s 7-week Buddhist course on forgiveness, reconciliation, self-compassion, and emotional healing. This training deepened my ability to support clients carrying grief, resentment, or unresolved emotional pain, offering practical tools for release and repair.

My Journey to becoming a Sex Coach

There was a night I laid in bed next to my wife - a brilliant and beautiful doctor - and felt completely alone. No fight, no drama. Just silence between us. We hadn’t had good sex in months (years?). I was running a multimillion-dollar company, admired, successful… and I couldn’t feel my own life. My body was tight. My chest was hollow. Desire had quietly packed its bags and left - replaced by sexual problems and a quiet disconnection I had somehow learned to ignore.

I kept telling myself I was fine. That this was adulthood. That I should be grateful. But something deeper - quieter - didn’t buy it. A small voice, somewhere between my heart and my gut, whispered: “This isn’t aliveness. This is performance.”

That was the beginning. The beginning of learning that these sexual “problems” weren’t problems at all - they were signals. And when I finally stopped to listen - when I turned toward them instead of away - they became the very guideposts that led me to a life I still can’t believe I get to live.

My Approach

Before this work, I was the CEO of a multi-million dollar tech company - so I’m probably more direct and goal-oriented than your average therapist. I’m not here to just explore your feelings. I’m here to help you actually fix this - with clarity, structure, and a plan.

Here’s the 3-step approach I’ve found most effective:

1. We identify the root cause:

Low desire, performance issues, disconnection - these aren’t flaws or signs you’re broken. They’re signals. I promise. Just like a car’s check engine light isn’t the problem itself, your body is asking you to slow down and pay attention. My job is to help you stop beating yourself (or your partner) up - and start decoding what your erotic body is trying to say. Often, there’s something missing, something misaligned, or something unprocessed that’s quietly running the show. Once we process it, it won't run the show anymore - you will.

2. We work with the body to resolve what’s underneath:

This isn’t about endlessly analyzing your past. We’ll explore the memories, moments, and internalized stories that shaped your sexuality - especially the ones your body still responds to with fear, collapse, or shame. But we won’t just talk about them. We’ll work with your nervous system directly - until what once felt stuck begins to soften and move.

Think of it like stepping into a river: the current keeps flowing, and real healing happens when you stop gripping the shore and let it carry you somewhere new.

3. We bring it back into your sex life:

This is where it gets fun. We take your insights and healing and bring them into real life. That might mean helping you get out of the “people pleaser” or “perfectionist” trap and into your erotic power, or learning how to create safety and seduction at the same time. I’ll give you structured practices and homework - solo or partnered - like how to breathe during masturbation to rewire your body’s pace, or how to do conflict in a way that you both feel understood, or how to turn your partner on without relying on the same old script. The goal isn’t just healing - it’s embodiment.

To learn more about me, please visit my website:

www.aaronfrazin.com

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