SEX & INTIMACY COACH

Aaron Frazin, Sex & Relationship Coach

Aaron Frazin is a sex and relationship coach based in New Orleans who helps individuals and couples bring more presence, honesty, and aliveness into their intimate lives.

His path here wasn't a straight line. Aaron was a tech founder who built a multimillion-dollar company from the ground up, then moved into executive coaching. There he kept noticing the same thing: the leaders he worked with could solve almost any problem except the ones closest to home. Their relationships, and their sex lives, were where the old patterns ran deepest.

That led him to train with Keeley Rankin in somatic approaches to sex and relationships. Working alongside Keeley, he began coaching couples through the places they felt most stuck: mismatched desire, emotional distance, the cycle where one partner reaches and the other pulls away, the slow fade of erotic connection in long-term partnerships. That work is now the heart of his practice, and some of his clients have worked with him for more than five years.

Aaron's approach is rooted in mindfulness and contemplative practice. Drawing on teachers like Tara Brach, John Welwood, Bruce Tift, and Jeff Foster, he invites clients to meet what's actually happening in their bodies, their emotions, and the space between them and their partner, with curiosity instead of judgment. He doesn't try to fix desire or force closeness. His sessions slow things down enough for people to notice what they're feeling, what they're longing for, and what they're protecting. Real choice becomes possible from there.

He's especially drawn to the tension between connection and desire: how needing to feel safe with a partner and needing to feel alive with them can seem to compete. Couples often arrive convinced one of them is "the problem." Aaron helps them see the pattern they're caught in together, and step out of it with more compassion for themselves and each other.

His sessions are practical and embodied. Clients learn to notice sensation, stay with discomfort without bolting, name their wants and limits clearly, and experiment in small, doable steps with new ways of touching, talking, and being together.

A line he returns to often, for clients and for himself: everyone is doing the best they can with the tools they have. The work is about adding a few more tools, and a lot more kindness.

Although Aaron also practices as a counselor in a separate clinical setting, his coaching is educational and growth-oriented. It does not use therapeutic methods and is not a substitute for therapy or mental health treatment.