The End of Our Blog Partnership: A Personal Note

This post is from May 2020. BetterSexEd.org has since closed, and I now write here on my own blog. For my current work, start with The Sex Class or browse the latest posts on the blog.

Seven years ago, I was driving across the Golden Gate Bridge when I picked up a call from one of my best friends, Nikita. She proposed we start a blog about sexuality. For years she had been encouraging me to write more, but I had a block. Would people like what I had to say? Would my articles make sense?

Nikita's idea was "candid conversations for real people about sex": me as the expert with professional training, her as a regular gal with a lot of sexual curiosity (and great writing skills).

Nikita had moved from San Francisco a few years earlier and had just finished co-authoring her second book, The Demise of Guys, with Philip Zimbardo.

With her writing skills and enthusiasm, and my desire to stay connected with her and challenge myself to write more, we co-created BetterSexEd.org.

We started with a bang, and for years we both contributed articles regularly. A few other people joined our team. We had guest writers and some ghostwriters. I even had a few clients post some of their work on the site.

With Nikita's endless and patient editing, I began to gain confidence in my writing voice. She encouraged me to dig deeper, be more vulnerable and give time to words as they flow from my brain to my fingers.

BSE has given us so much to be thankful for over the years.

Then our articles began to slow down, and our attention started to wane.

We were losing interest and inspiration for BSE.

So, we regrouped.

What if we started a YouTube channel?

The enthusiasm lasted for a bit, but making time to record was a struggle.

My inspiration moved to creating online erotic learning courses, and Nikita's moved to her art.

So we've made the decision to dissolve BetterSexEd. It is the end of an era for BSE.

I feel sadness, but I remember that all things come to an end.

Everything, everyone, has a life cycle, and our playful little blog has had its.

We averaged about 5,000 views per month, have about 2,500 followers and won three awards. Not too shabby for a side project. To those of you who followed us over the years, THANK YOU. We hope our advice added to your life.

I'm happy to report our friendship is as strong as ever. We are forever woven into one another's support systems. In many ways, we have a stronger bond because of the business relationship we shared.

Nikita will be working on her artwork and exploring her own ideas on her blog, PlatosLadder.com.