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One of the most common questions therapists hear today is, “Am I a sex addict?” While some who ask this question are grappling with societal judgments about their healthy, albeit high, sex drive, for others, it may point to a deeper problem. Sexual addiction is a condition where sexual behaviors bec...
One major challenge of a long-term relationship is to keep the sexual vibrancy alive. Yet, while it is such a common issue, many couples do remain sexually content and manage to maintain their passion. What have couples who report being sexually satisfied figured out? What are they doing that allows...
Erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation affect men of all ages, backgrounds, and experiences. It's not just a young man's problem, nor is it limited to novices. You’re probably already wondering, is it normal for a guy to release quickly? Early release is common, whether it’s considered norma...
Premature ejaculation, or PE, is the infamous bedroom party crasher. If you struggle with finishing too quickly, know that you aren't alone: 30% to 40% of men experience PE at some point in their lives.
A slew of things contribute to PE, from a super-sensitive penis to getting stuck in your head du...
I very much enjoyed your article, 10 Things Sexually Connected Couples Do. My biggest question is around emotional intimacy in long term relationships. What role does emotion have in long-term sexual satisfaction? Can emotional closeness be a part of the seduc...
Seven years ago, I was driving across the Golden Gate Bridge when I picked up a call from one of my best friend’s Nikita. She proposed we start a blog around sexuality. For years, she had been encouraging me to write more but I had a block. Would people like what I had to say? Would my articles make...
In times like these, with changes that the global pandemic brings, even great couples can be put to the test. Little did we know that when we joked with our partners about being our ‘ride or die,’ we would actually have to prove it!
So…how is your ‘ride or die’ partnership working out for you?
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It’s happened to all of us at some point.
Day in, day out, you’re living a nice, predictable life with all your ducks in a row. Then, life throws you a curveball that changes everything, including your sex life.
In 2017, I fell off a horse and broke my leg (Click here for all the juicy, excrucia...
When I hit the ground, I thought “No, this is not happening.”
In my years of riding, I have fallen off more horses than I can count.
I’ve been rolled on, stepped on, thrown into fences, trees - you name it.
Almost every situation you can imagine to go wrong in horse riding, I have been through it...
BY SUGAR
August 5th, 2010
The folks who show up in my office often feel like they are somehow unfit for love. They don't fit the physical mold of what society has deemed presentable, lovable, worthy of love.
Yet, somewhere inside them lives the part that desperately wants there to be a different ...
There is one question I want to know in the first session with a new client, "What makes you difficult to be in relationship with?" This question helps me better understand many things about how this clients relationship experiences are unfolding.
How self- reflective and introspective are you?
Th...
