The Erotic Mind by Jack Morin: Why I Recommend It

Did you know you have something called a "core erotic theme"?

Jack Morin wrote this insightful book for anyone who wants to understand themselves better sexually and dig into what turns them on, and why.

The Erotic Mind challenges a lot of accepted ideas about what makes for great sex. It explores the least understood parts of our sexuality: the psychology of desire, arousal and fulfillment. It's full of stories from people of all sexual orientations describing their fantasies and what arouses them.

Morin unpacks the paradoxes of erotic life. Why we're often most excited when there's an obstacle to overcome. How feelings we usually think of as turn-offs, like anxiety, guilt and anger, can sometimes heighten arousal. How we bring unresolved issues from early life into our passion. And why the best sex tends to be alive and a little unpredictable, rather than static and safe.

Alongside these insights, he offers concrete suggestions for increasing pleasure, working through sexual problems and bringing new life to a relationship. It may change the way you think about eroticism.

Try this before you open the book

Think back to your three or four hottest sexual experiences, or the fantasies you return to most. Write a few lines about each.

Then ask: what do they have in common? Longing? Something forbidden? Surrender? Being truly seen?

That common thread is a first clue to your core erotic theme. It's exactly where Morin's book picks up.

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