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Amazing lovers are made, not born.

The reality is, amazing lovers are not automatically born into amazing-lover status. Someone taught them how to touch, kiss, lick, grab, and hold. Every day I have conversations with people, clients and friends alike, who are concerned about their performance in b...

Remember the beginning of your relationship, all those feelings of passion? You were lustful and excited about getting to know the other person. You stayed up all night talking, and a look or a slight touch turned you red hot inside. You felt alive, with more energy and happiness about the way your ...

The term "sexless marriage" gets a lot of attention, but relationships are often "touchless" long before anyone calls them sexless.

When I first wrote this, I'd just watched the movie Le Week-End (2013), about a British couple who return to Paris after 30 years of marriage to re-create their honeym...

Let's do it! Right here, right now, let's forever change what we refer to as "foreplay" to something else. Let's rebrand foreplay to more accurately represent these sex acts for what they are. First off, it's all play. Sex is, at its finest, adult play. It is how we adults have a good time, let off ...

On flirting, desire, and knowing what you want.

When I was asked to present at the event Master the F Word: Flirting, my first thought was, "What do I actually do when I flirt with someone?" The answer was simple: I imagine myself fucking them.

From this idea, I ran an exercise with the group. Par...

Many of us are brought up to believe that self-reliance is one of the most important qualities to cultivate. And it is.

But there's a flip side. Too much self-reliance can work against you, getting in the way of personal growth and of bonding, in short-term and long-term relationships alike.

As a ...