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Next time you're close, notice your butt.

Most men who finish early are clenching: the anus, the pelvic floor, sometimes the thighs and belly too. They don't know they're doing it. And that squeeze is pushing them toward the finish line.

What this step is

I call this step the "anal breath." It's ...

Watch what your breath does the next time you get turned on. For most men I work with, it speeds up, goes shallow, or stops altogether, right as things get good.

That held breath is where Step 1 begins.

What this step is

Step 1 is slowing down and feeling your breath. It sounds too simple to matt...

It's over sooner than you wanted. Again. And before you've even caught your breath, the first word out of your mouth is "sorry."

If that moment is familiar, this page is for you. It's the hub for the way I coach men who finish sooner than they'd like: what's going on, why it happens, and the five p...

Many men who come to me are struggling with finishing sooner than they want. And many of them arrive carrying the same handful of beliefs about it, beliefs that make it harder to change.

Here are the five I hear most, and what I've seen instead.

Myth 1: It only happens to young men, and you'll gro...

Someone recently wrote in with a question:

"What are your thoughts on male orgasm and Eastern or tantric practices that advise against physical orgasm (but might favor energetic orgasm)? I'm curious how holding back on orgasm affects the male body and psyche. I've always been a guy who ejaculates f...