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What if I told you that you're missing out on life?

You're missing chances to meet "the one," or ones. You've already missed cool, interesting conversations with people and possibly life-changing experiences.

You might wonder how. "I subscribe to every mailing list and event app, and I read all my...

When a couple shows up in my office, we start exploring where things went wrong and how they can fix the issue or issues in front of them.

Right away, I lean on three expectations that most people bring to a modern relationship without consciously realizing it: physical intimacy (sex), emotional in...

"I want more sex than they do."

I hear this all the time. It's one of the most common reasons couples come to see me, and it's a conversation I have with plenty of my friends, too.

In sitting with many couples, I've noticed it's extremely rare for two people to want the same amount of sex across t...

You should be like this. You should do that. If you want a healthy sex life, you should try this with your partner. There are "shoulds" in every direction you turn these days. People, other people you have never met, are telling you how you should act. In graduate school, I heard the phrase "shouldi...

Fantasy and imagination are a natural part of being human, and many of us fantasize about sexual things. Maybe it's someone sweeping you off your feet (romance), meeting a sexy stranger and going right at it (no-strings-attached passion), or taking someone, or being taken, in a rough way (dominance)...

Amazing lovers are made, not born.

The reality is, amazing lovers are not automatically born into amazing-lover status. Someone taught them how to touch, kiss, lick, grab, and hold. Every day I have conversations with people, clients and friends alike, who are concerned about their performance in b...