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So often, we need a little break. A break from work, our relationship, our family, or just from life.

Many of us can't (or don't want to) pack up and leave our lives. Yet we do need moments of retreat, release and rejuvenation.

See if, right now, you can sit quietly. Allow your body to settle, and...

This article has been updated and combined into a newer post.

Read the updated version: Premature Ejaculation: My Step-by-Step Coaching Approach

This article has been updated and combined into a newer post.

Read the updated version: PE Practice, Step 3: Your Arousal and Anxiety Scales

When a couple shows up in my office, we start exploring where things went wrong and how they can fix the issue or issues in front of them.

Right away, I lean on three expectations that most people bring to a modern relationship without consciously realizing it: physical intimacy (sex), emotional in...

This article has been updated and combined into a newer post.

Read the updated version: Premature Ejaculation: My Step-by-Step Coaching Approach

"I want more sex than they do."

I hear this all the time. It's one of the most common reasons couples come to see me, and it's a conversation I have with plenty of my friends, too.

In sitting with many couples, I've noticed it's extremely rare for two people to want the same amount of sex across t...

Some years ago, I met up with a dear friend for dinner on the East Coast. It had been a few years since we'd connected; he's a very busy person. That year, he'd been working on a PBS documentary about intimacy, traveling the world and interviewing the Dalai Lama.

Of course, I was curious. "What hav...

Many men who come to me are struggling with finishing sooner than they want. And many of them arrive carrying the same handful of beliefs about it, beliefs that make it harder to change.

Here are the five I hear most, and what I've seen instead.

Myth 1: It only happens to young men, and you'll gro...

You should be like this. You should do that. If you want a healthy sex life, you should try this with your partner. There are "shoulds" in every direction you turn these days. People, other people you have never met, are telling you how you should act. In graduate school, I heard the phrase "shouldi...

Fantasy and imagination are a natural part of being human, and many of us fantasize about sexual things. Maybe it's someone sweeping you off your feet (romance), meeting a sexy stranger and going right at it (no-strings-attached passion), or taking someone, or being taken, in a rough way (dominance)...

Someone recently wrote in with a question:

"What are your thoughts on male orgasm and Eastern or tantric practices that advise against physical orgasm (but might favor energetic orgasm)? I'm curious how holding back on orgasm affects the male body and psyche. I've always been a guy who ejaculates f...

Everyone has one: a body we walk around in every day. Our bodies can give us immense pleasure and joy, and they take us places, literally and metaphorically.

One of my favorite things to explore with clients is their relationship with their own body. And what I've noticed, both in my work and in le...