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"I want more sex then they do," is a statement that I here often. It's a common reason couples come to see me for sex coaching and it's also a conversation I have with many of my friends.

Misaligned sex drives are one of the most common struggles that couples of all ages at some point will have...

A year ago, I met up with a dear friend for dinner on the East Coast. It had been a few years since we connected; he is very busy person. That year, he'd been working on a PBS documentary around intimacy, traveling the world, interviewing the Dalai Lama.

Of course, I was curious, "what...

Many men who come into my office struggle with ejaculation issues. Premature ejaculation is one of the most common concerns. There are a few false beliefs I keep hearing. I’d like to set the record straight for all those folks out there who are struggling to control ejaculation. 

Myth:...

You should be like this. You should do that. If you want a healthy sexy life you should try this with your partner. There are “should’s” any direction you turn these days. People, other people, who you have not met, are telling you how you should act. In graduate school, I heard...

Fantasy and using our imaginations is a natural part of being human. We have the ability to fantasize about so many things – especially sexual things. Everyone has had a sexual fantasy. Whether it is about someone sweeping you off your feet (romantic), unexpectedly meeting a sexy stranger...

Are there any benefits from lasting longer or withholding ejaculation?

Someone recently wrote in a question:

What are your thoughts on male orgasm and eastern/tantric practices which advise against physical orgasm (but might be favorable towards energetic orgasm)? I’m curious...

Body Acceptance : Is the World Rejecting Your Body or are You?

Everyone has one, that is, a body that we walk around in everyday. Our bodies can give us immense pleasure and joy, and take us places – literally and metaphorically. One of my favorite things to explore with clients in session...

How to be a good lover - amazing lovers are made, not born.

The reality is, amazing lovers are not automatically born into amazing lover status. Someone taught them how to touch, kiss, lick, grab, and hold. Every day I have conversations with people; clients and friends alike, that are concerned...

Passion: Find It and Keep It

Remember the beginning of your relationship, all those feelings of passion? You were lustful and excited about getting to know the other person. You stayed up all night talking endlessly, and a mere look or slight touch turned you red hot inside. You felt alive, with...

Sexless Relationship? How Did We Get Here? Living Like Roommates.

The term “sexless marriage” gets a lot of attention, but often, relationships are “touchless” long before they get labeled as sexless.

I was watching a movie, Le Week-End, the other day. It is about a...

Let’s do it! Right here, right now, let’s forever change what we refer to as “foreplay” to something else. Let re-brand foreplay to more accurately represent the sex acts for what they are. First off, it’s all play. Sex is, at its finest, adult play. It is how us...

When I was asked to present at the event, Master the F Word: Flirting, my first thought was “What do I do when I flirt with someone?” The answer was simple: I imagine myself fucking them. From this idea, I ran an experiential with the group, giving participants instructions to talk to...