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If you want to last longer

Causes, timelines, kegels, medication, Viagra, numbing sprays and more: a sex coach’s straight answers to the PE questions men ask most.

If sex has started to feel like a test

Anxiety, overstimulation, passivity, resentment: a sex coach on why men struggle in bed, and what helps them feel present and confident again.

If you love them and the want has faded

Lost desire for a partner you still love? How I’d work with it: honest talk, sharing what really turns you on, and one small experiment to start.

Want to Meet Someone? Look Up from Your Phone communication relationships Dec 19, 2017

Sex, Intimacy, and Commitment: What Are You Expecting? communication couples intimacy relationships Sep 21, 2017

How to Keep Passion Alive in a Long-Term Relationship desire personal relationships Jan 25, 2015

To Flirt or to Fuck? desire personal relationships Aug 27, 2014

When Self-Reliance Makes It Hard to Let Someone In couples intimacy relationships May 12, 2014

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