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Lasting longer - are there benefits of withholding ejaculation during orgasm? Jun 30, 2015

Are there any benefits from lasting longer or withholding ejaculation?

 

Someone recently wrote in a question:

 

What are your thoughts on male orgasm and eastern/tantric practices which advise against physical orgasm (but might be favorable towards energetic orgasm)? I’m curious...

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Fantasy vs. Reality: Which is Better? Jun 30, 2015

Fantasy and using our imaginations is a natural part of being human. We have the ability to fantasize about so many things – especially sexual things. Everyone has had a sexual fantasy. Whether it is about someone sweeping you off your feet (romantic), unexpectedly meeting a sexy stranger...

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Body Acceptance : Is the World Rejecting Your Body or are You? Apr 20, 2015

Body Acceptance : Is the World Rejecting Your Body or are You?

Everyone has one, that is, a body that we walk around in everyday. Our bodies can give us immense pleasure and joy, and take us places – literally and metaphorically. One of my favorite things to explore with clients in session...

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How to be a good lover - amazing lovers are made, not born Feb 18, 2015

How to be a good lover - amazing lovers are made, not born.

The reality is, amazing lovers are not automatically born into amazing lover status. Someone taught them how to touch, kiss, lick, grab, and hold. Every day I have conversations with people; clients and friends alike, that are concerned...

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Nice Guys Don’t Finish Last When They Speak Up Feb 12, 2015

I hear it quite a bit in my practice, “He is really nice, I like talking to him, but I don’t want to fuck him.” How do you find the balance between being a nice person, and being a fuckable person; how do you cross the bridge from being someone women are not interested in...

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Passion: Find It and Keep It Jan 25, 2015

Passion: Find It and Keep It

Remember the beginning of your relationship, all those feelings of passion? You were lustful and excited about getting to know the other person. You stayed up all night talking endlessly, and a mere look or slight touch turned you red hot inside. You felt alive, with...

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Compliments: The Power of Compliments and how to give them Jan 24, 2015

“I can live for two months on a good compliment.” – Mark Twain

Compliments: The Power of Compliments and how to give them

Complimenting someone else is one of my favorite things to do. If I see something I like about a person, I just say it right then and there. Even the people...

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Sexless Relationship? How Did We Get Here? Living Like Roommates. Dec 16, 2014

Sexless Relationship? How Did We Get Here? Living Like Roommates.

The term “sexless marriage” gets a lot of attention, but often, relationships are “touchless” long before they get labeled as sexless.

I was watching a movie, Le Week-End, the other day. It is about a...

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Let's Rebrand Foreplay Oct 02, 2014

Let’s do it! Right here, right now, let’s forever change what we refer to as “foreplay” to something else. Let re-brand foreplay to more accurately represent the sex acts for what they are. First off, it’s all play. Sex is, at its finest, adult play. It is how us...

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To Flirt Or To Fuck? Aug 27, 2014

When I was asked to present at the event, Master the F Word: Flirting, my first thought was “What do I do when I flirt with someone?” The answer was simple: I imagine myself fucking them. From this idea, I ran an experiential with the group, giving participants instructions to talk to...

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After The Honeymoon Phase Jun 09, 2014

Most of us have listened to stories from friends or experienced the typical arch of a sexual relationship. You start out with a burning lust and desire for the other person; it feels so good to be with them and everything they do turns you on. The sex is frequent and fulfilling. Your needs feel...

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Too much of a good thing? When Self-Reliance Backfires May 12, 2014

Many of us are brought up to believe self-reliance or individuality is one of the most important personal qualities to cultivate. And it is. But there is a flip-side to having too much self-reliance that can work against people, hindering personal growth and bonding in both short-term and...

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