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He Sits Down on the Floor of a School for the Retarded Aug 12, 2016

A year ago, I met up with a dear friend for dinner on the East Coast. It had been a few years since we connected; he is very busy person. That year, he'd been working on a PBS documentary around intimacy, traveling the world, interviewing the Dalai Lama.

Of course, I was curious, "what...

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Premature Ejaculation and the 5 most common false beliefs Aug 09, 2016

Many men who come into my office struggle with ejaculation issues. Premature ejaculation is one of the most common concerns. There are a few false beliefs I keep hearing. I’d like to set the record straight for all those folks out there who are struggling to control ejaculation. 

Myth:...

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14 Ways Couples Stay Sexually Connected Jul 14, 2016

A waning sexual connection can be one of the toughest challenges of a long-term relationship. Yet, while it is a common issue, some couples remain sexually content or manage to maintain their chemistry. What have couples who report being sexually satisfied figured out? What are they doing...

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How the Word “Should” is Killing Your Sex Life Aug 21, 2015

You should be like this. You should do that. If you want a healthy sexy life you should try this with your partner. There are “should’s” any direction you turn these days. People, other people, who you have not met, are telling you how you should act. In graduate school, I heard...

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Lasting longer - are there benefits of withholding ejaculation during orgasm? Jun 30, 2015

Are there any benefits from lasting longer or withholding ejaculation?

 

Someone recently wrote in a question:

 

What are your thoughts on male orgasm and eastern/tantric practices which advise against physical orgasm (but might be favorable towards energetic orgasm)? I’m curious...

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Fantasy vs. Reality: Which is Better? Jun 30, 2015

Fantasy and using our imaginations is a natural part of being human. We have the ability to fantasize about so many things – especially sexual things. Everyone has had a sexual fantasy. Whether it is about someone sweeping you off your feet (romantic), unexpectedly meeting a sexy stranger...

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Body Acceptance : Is the World Rejecting Your Body or are You? Apr 20, 2015

Body Acceptance : Is the World Rejecting Your Body or are You?

Everyone has one, that is, a body that we walk around in everyday. Our bodies can give us immense pleasure and joy, and take us places – literally and metaphorically. One of my favorite things to explore with clients in session...

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How to be a good lover - amazing lovers are made, not born Feb 17, 2015

How to be a good lover - amazing lovers are made, not born.

The reality is, amazing lovers are not automatically born into amazing lover status. Someone taught them how to touch, kiss, lick, grab, and hold. Every day I have conversations with people; clients and friends alike, that are concerned...

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Nice Guys Don’t Finish Last When They Speak Up Feb 12, 2015

I hear it quite a bit in my practice, “He is really nice, I like talking to him, but I don’t want to fuck him.” How do you find the balance between being a nice person, and being a fuckable person; how do you cross the bridge from being someone women are not interested in...

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Passion: Find It and Keep It Jan 25, 2015

Passion: Find It and Keep It

Remember the beginning of your relationship, all those feelings of passion? You were lustful and excited about getting to know the other person. You stayed up all night talking endlessly, and a mere look or slight touch turned you red hot inside. You felt alive, with...

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Compliments: The Power of Compliments and how to give them Jan 24, 2015

“I can live for two months on a good compliment.” – Mark Twain

Compliments: The Power of Compliments and how to give them

Complimenting someone else is one of my favorite things to do. If I see something I like about a person, I just say it right then and there. Even the people...

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Sexless Relationship? How Did We Get Here? Living Like Roommates. Dec 16, 2014

Sexless Relationship? How Did We Get Here? Living Like Roommates.

The term “sexless marriage” gets a lot of attention, but often, relationships are “touchless” long before they get labeled as sexless.

I was watching a movie, Le Week-End, the other day. It is about a...

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