There is one question I want to know in the first session with a new client, "What makes you difficult to be in relationship with?" This question helps me better understand many things about how this clients relationship experiences are unfolding.

How self- reflective and introspective are...

At the beginning of last year, I had a brilliant idea:

I want to create an online video course for clients who struggle with premature ejaculation.

After all, I’ve received calls from men all over the world who felt they were doomed to a life of “early release.” They tried it...

These days, so much emphasis is paid to porn videos....but have you thought about erotic graphic novels?

My guess would be no because many folks have not.

What I love about this type of erotica, is you can enjoy the turn on with your eyes in a very different way then a video. You are still...

I’ve been thinking a lot about sex clubs lately.

You know, adults enjoying “adult” time with other like-minded individuals.

Unfortunately, San Francisco -- and most of the US -- is sorely lacking in this type of entertainment…but Paris? Ooh la la!

The City of Lights,...

“I thought I could describe a state; make a map of sorrow. Sorrow, however, turns out to be not a state but a process.”

~ C.S. Lewis, Irish author and poet~

“The reality is that you will grieve forever. You will not ‘get over’ the loss of a loved one; you will learn...

In my practice, I talk often with clients on the topic of dating - especially online dating. I’ve had the pleasure to see so many new relationships bud and people fall madly in love. I have also seen dating go all wrong. Needless to say, we never know when our person will show up, but...

We have come to be danced
not the pretty dance
not the pretty pretty, pick me, pick me dance
but the claw our way back into the belly
of the sacred, sensual animal dance
the unhinged, unplugged, cat is out of its box dance
the holding the precious moment in the palms
of our hands and feet dance

We have...

Step 4

'Sweet Spot'

Step 4 is learning where your “sweet spot” is on your arousal curve. When you first start working on ejaculation control, your sweet spot is going to be much lower than after you’ve gained more confidence.

Meaning when you first start to practice, your sweet...

An Introduction to Sex as Meditation: How to turn the erotic into a mindfulness practice.

One of the core beliefs of 'Sex As Meditation' is that erotic energy and sexuality are lenses that we can use to deepen into the experience of being human. This connection can help us feel more present...

Have you been curious about what the most common questions of men who struggle to control their ejaculation are? so do many people. below is a compilation of the most common questions I get.

- How long do men typically sustain erections (what is a realistic baseline)?

Most erections come and go....

Step 5

The fifth and final step (which is often already happening if you’re practicing the four steps before) is to let the energy that builds in your cock move through the rest of the body.

Imagine the energy moving

When you are masturbating or with your partner, imagine the intense...

Getting stuck chasing the your orgasm is something many of us are familiar with. It seems so normal that it’s become habitual – sex doesn’t “count” unless there’s an orgasm. Both people have to reach climax, right?

With all their splendor and glory, orgasms...